Showing posts with label habits. Show all posts
Showing posts with label habits. Show all posts

Make an "I can at least ..." List

What do you do when you just don't feel like doing what you're supposed to do?  Let's face it - you're going to have those days no matter how clear you get on your goals and what you want out of life.  It's so easy to slack off and lose momentum.

Not every day is going to be perfect and I hope you're not shooting for perfection anyway.  You're never going to get perfect, you can only and always get better.  You have to think progress not perfection!

So with that in mind, how can we make progress every single day?  Here's a tip that I got from an article by Robert Pagliarini that I've tried on a couple of areas in my life and it works.  Think "I can at least...".  This practice will save you on those days when you're feeling too tired, or stressed, or "blah" to do as much as you planned.

Here's an example:
Let's say you have a goal to save $5 every day because ultimately you want to have money specifically saved to invest in a mutual fund by the end of the year.  As easy as this sounds, you'll probably have days where that $5 disappeared on gas or emergency groceries or maybe you just blew it on candy.  Instead of feeling that you messed up for that day, do the next best thing instead.  In this case, you say, "Well, I can at least save $1 today."  And do that. 

This is about more than the "something is better than nothing" principle.  When you can't accept anything less than $5 a day and you miss it, you've not only sacrificed a day, you've sacrificed a precious bit of your momentum and you've made it that much easier to miss it again and again.  Before you know it, the year is gone and you've gotten nowhere because you've sabotaged your success with your need for perfection.  It's funny how obsessing over perfection so often leads to its exact opposite.  That $1 saves you.  It preserves your self-respect.  It's a symbol of your commitment to progress no matter what.

Now, before you say, "What's the big deal?  I can make up for missing a day by saving $10 tomorrow.  So it's ok if I don't do anything today."  The money in itself is not the point.  Your mindset is the point.  Really successful people know that their success is the result of the little things that they do every day.  They understand that this is how the magic of the compound effect works in their lives.  Success is not a result of what you do to make up for what you didn't do.

So, what's your back up plan?

Here's some ideas:
Goal: I exercise for 45 minutes a day
Back-up: I can at least exercise for 10 minutes today

Goal: Study Spanish for 1 hour every day
Back-up: I can at least study 10 words today

There is another awesome benefit about this principle.  When you think, "I can at least ..." and you do it, you'll find it easier to keep going and you'll find yourself on top of your game anyway.  For instance, if the thought of exercising for 45 minutes feels too daunting for you one day, but you get up to at least do 10 minutes, you're going to find after 10 minutes that you feel good enough to do the next 35!

Remember: Think progress not perfection.

A Quick Post on Habits

I've watched many interviews of successful people and when they're asked what was the single most powerful factor or key to their success, they all pretty much say the same thing: that they've been more consistent than most people.

Consistency is everything.  But successful people aren't just consistent.  They are persistently consistent.  At first glance, this may sound redundant, but when you get into the challenge of being consistent at anything, you really start to feel just how persistence comes into play.

And this is where habits come in.  The dictionary defines habits as:
"an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary: the habit of looking both ways before crossing the street."
 
In short, it's really, really hard to be persistently consistent at anything unless you turn those things into habits.
Sure you can get stuff done through will power, but every human being has a limited supply of will power, so you cannot depend on will power in the long run.  Eventually it will run out and you'll fall into the dead end trap of waiting till you "feel like it."  We need good habits to carry us through.

So I have "bad" news and good news.  The "bad" news is that building a good habit can be really challenging.  The good news is that it takes only 21 days for your brain to accept and implement a new habit - a new, automatic mode of operation.  In other words, after 21 days, it won't hurt anymore!  

But there's one thing you need to remember.  21 days means 21 days straight.  No breaks.  Studies have shown that if you even take a day off from practicing your habit, you have to go back to the beginning and start from day 1 again.  Your brain knows you're cheating and won't settle for anything less than 21 "perfect" days.  

Successful people will tell you that you are only a few key habits away from living a successful life.  Now that's a pretty significant piece of information and I plan on taking it very seriously!!!

So, identify your "success habits" and let's get to work implementing one at a time.
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